Absolutely. I work with many married couples and that’s exactly what we discuss, how gendered social norms infiltrate relationships I use the term ‘mental load’ to describe the endless cycling of what needs to be done at any given time being tasked to women. Equal investment means the dad in this scenario handles just as much mental load from researching dentists and taking time out from work to bring the kids to visits. Being responsible himself to know school events, upcoming tests, or handling social planning with friends and family. This is win-win for the family when it’s a shared endeavor. If the wife seems tired and irritable, then the husband has to realize this is telling him something.